Happiness 4/9

Happiness to a large extant is a effect and not a free standing emotion.It is invariably  the effect  of our getting something. It cold be an object or an experience. We as a species seem to equate aquisition to Happiness. Even the so called causeless joy is a misnomer in as much as the cause is still there but is more of  a subconscious activity and not a non activity.
A mistake that we commit is to chase happiness as though it too is an object to be aquired . Of course there is nothing wrong in being happy with  all these external objects and experiences they provide. The problem is that they do not last and we are back to square one starting another quest for happiness..
Could it be because of the way we consider happiness or the way we measure it? When we realize that the true measure of our happiness is not how happy  we are but how happy others are around us,there is a tremendous difference in our perception. There is a paradigm shift of sorts. An added bonus is that this is quantifiable and measurable. Does it mean that we become a door mat and always keep trying to make others happy? No ,no. Nothing of that sort. It only means that we have to become truly HUMAN. We have to be the kind of person that people feel they would like to be with. Be a Giver and not a Beggar. Again it has nothing to do with giving either. You do not have to give objects or be generous with your time and compassion. We have to become like a flower or a blade of grass.
It just is and it's being spreads happiness and a sense of peace to all who come across it.