When the expected out come does not happen ,one tends to get upset, angry .  while we are in this state of mind, we tend to take out our frustration on others.we become grouchy.we loose our cool and react negatively to every situation.
The boss yells at the officer. He shouts at the clerk. Clerk goes home and takes it out on his wife etc.
While it would be nice to be able not to be offended,it is not something any of us can  do. The next best thing is to see how soon we can regain our composure. Several techniques can be used for this. But for anything to happen ,we have to first accept that we have lost our equilibrium and our equanimity. At the same time we should also be aware that this state is not something you want because of the problems it can lead to. The very fact of your becoming awsre will quench the fires raging within you and help restore your mental balance.

bad decisions

Decision is primarily , choosing an optimal course of action, rationally, froma a host of choices. It assumes that we wiegh the pros and cons and then arrive at the decision. But do we always do that?

Does anyone really make bad decisions. A decision turns out to be a bad one only when the outcome becomes something other than what you expected. But was there anyway to know in advance that there could be other repercussions. In many cases we would have realised it , if we had taken an objective look at the matter. Most of the time decisions are anything but rational because we are not really rational animals.
Decisions are dependent on the compexity of the problem , available time to make the decisions, the seriousness of the consequences and the mental capability of the decision maker and personal values. causes of bad decisions. elements of a good decisionn.
causes of not being able to make even small chices
Even the best of us can make trribly wrong decision . We may wonder later , what we were thinking or how could we have been so blind to all the consequences of our choices . A bad decision does not make youa bad person. IAt the time we would have felt that, that was the only choice.
Do nottake a decision when you are under emotional stress

It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.—unknown.
We seem to have a visceral need to be loved. After food ,shelter and security , the need to be loved is the next need ,according to Maslow.
Our need to be loved tends to be inversely proportional to what we actually are. The more obnoxious we are, the stronger our need to be liked. Does it mean that unconsciously we are aware of our unlikeableness?
This desire makes us to  act in a manner whichwould be acceptable to the people whose love and respect we crave. It is not that this behavior is bad intrinsically. Any good behavior from an obnoxious person is a relief, no doubt. But for the person ,it is not in any way helpful. They have not changed in any way. It is just manipulation and hypocricy.He is getting the respect/ love under false pretences and at the best it is a matter of time before the truth is out.
The way to achive true respect is to become worthy of respect. We have to learn to become more understanding and compassionate.  We need to take the focus away from ourselves and start focusssing on others. We must learn to appreciate others. Accept that even if we are self-made, there are others who have contributed to our success. No man is an island to himself. Right from our forefathers to teachers and friends have contributed to our becoming what we are and we must acknowledge our debt to them.
Another important contributor to being respected is our integrity and  trustworthyness. Even in small things like punctuality and keeping our words , we should be awareful. Though this may sound counter intuitive , we should not be available to evryone all the time. There are times when we need to say “no” to some requests. Time is limited and with all our good intentions , promising more than we can deliver is not the best way to earn respect. It will end up being counter productive.
If we do not love ourselves, it will be futile to expect others to love us. We need not be narcissistic about it but must have enough self respect. Self esteem is all important for everyone. People must know that they cannot treat you like a doormat.
We must live by some definite set of  values. . While we can be flexible and accomodative, we should set our own boundaries.There are certain things that we will not do. A line which we will not cross, if you will.
Ther must be consistency in what you say and do . To profess something but not adhere to it in our own life is a recipe for disaster. Each one of us chooses a role in life. It comes with certain rules and conditions. Anytime we treat our responsibilties cavalierly we court   a lash back.
Be true to yourself is one of the golden rules. Leading a moral and well regulated life does not mean that our life would be drab and dull. Infact the self imposed restrictions will make you more free and let you enjoy life more exuberently and more satisfyingly.

Habits are a sequence of actions which are performed most of the time without awareness or our conscious guidance. Intrinsically they are neither bad nor good. If it is not contributing or actually hindering our growth or in any way hindering us in reaching our goals, it is labelled as bad or negative. Knowing this a wise person will try to use habits to his advantage.
As usual this also begins with introspection. If you are prone to minor accidents, it may be because you are all the time fixated on your smart phone. I sometimes keep the milk on the stove and start focussing on the whatsapp messages. You know what happens.
Once you have identified the habitual behavior which contributed to the accident, you can design a different set of activities that will overcome the problem.
It is sad fact that we tend to have more "bad" habits than good. In fact most of our problems are due to these habitual behaviors. They start taking a life of their own and you become the victim of these habits.